barefoot bunny

So I was dating this guy for a few weeks and I could tell he definitely like me more than I liked him but I wanted to give it a fair shot and see if I could develope more feelings for him (remind me to never do this again, I need an instant attraction). 

Last Sunday I went to his sisters for a little get together with family and friends and met his fam for the first time.  At the end of the night he told me that he's not seeing anyone else nor does he want to.  I just sort of stood there, gave an awkward giggle and said something dumb like "thank you."

Last night I went out with him, his roommate, his gf, and then I invited my friend to meet up with us.  The guy and I go back to my friends, I end up going to bed earlier and then I wake up and she tells me something "happened" between them and said she didn't remember exactly what.  Are you kidding me?!

Now I definitely wasn't upset because I really didn't like him and thought it was a lost cause anyway but 1. Don't tell me you don't want to see anyone else and then hit on/mess around with my friend and 2. This is obviously not a very nice friend. 

I've had problems with her in the past with me and guys.  For one reason or another and I hate writing this because it sounds stuck up but guys usually like me over her.  This has made her a jealous person I think.  One guy that I was dating (while she had a boyfriend) she said she liked and then he got too clingy with me and I told her I wasn't sure how I was feeling about him and she got mad at me for something stupid and texted him saying I said all these bad things about him (which I didn't) and that I didn't like him. 

More recently, I went out with another guy I met on eHarmony and he had a tattoo that I wasn't the biggest fan of (a darwin fish) and shared that with her but I explained that it wasn't a deal breaker by any means and that as long as someone I'm with is accepting of my beliefs that's ok with me.  Well then she goes and joins eHarmony, gets matched up with him, starts talking to him, and tells him that I didn't like him. Stay out of my business!!

This last thing is my final straw I think.  I mean how many times can she try to ruin things for me?  And there are more stories than the ones I've just shared.  I don't know what to do with the relationship.  I feel like I can't trust her with anything personal and I'm sick of feeling betrayed.  She has some good qualities but I don't know where to draw the line.  And it's also hard because I don't really have many girlfriends here in town.  Any advice? Thoughts?

This whole situation makes me really glad I didn't tell any of my IRL friends about this blog- especially her! I'm so glad I can vent on here and get my feelings out.  :)

So, I went on my SECOND eHarmoney date with Matt and it went well!  We went to a really cute restaurant in Phoenix called Hula's.. they have a patio with a firepit and really cute retro Hawaii feel :)  And tomorrow I'm going on another date with someone else!

On Sunday my mom and I wanted to try a new Church.  We decided on a Lutheran Church called Prince of Peace (her choice- I wanted to try a different one).  I wanted to go to a big Church with lots of people there and lots to do there (classes, bible study, retreats) but she assured me this was a "big" church so off we went.  We were kinda running late so we ran in and took our seats right away.  Once we were seated we started to read the bulletin and it looked a little funny- it was talking about "the Ward" and we didn't know what that was and started to think maybe we were there on a special Sunday and this wasn't the normal service.  Then it was time to sing Joy to the World and we sort of eased into everything.  Then it went back to the Ward and we were confused again so my mom asked the lady if she went to that Church and if this service was a typical one.  The lady said it was and it's a 3 hour service and that's what its like for the first hour.  At this point my mom turned back around with a funny look on her face and I told her to ask the lady what church this was, in case we were at the wrong one.  Turns out, we were in a Mormon Church*... whoops! The lady then asked where we wanted to be and if we wanted to leave and we hightailed it out of there and down the street to Prince of Peace so we wouldn't be too late.

After church my mom and I went to breakfast together at True Food Kitchen and did some shopping.  Such a wonderful Sunday with my mom! :)


*Nothing wrong with being Mormon, it's just not what we practice! :)

So last night I had my first date with "Matt, 34, Phoenix" and I'd say it went very well!  We met at the dog park after I got off work and hung out there for about an hour and then tried to go to Starbucks for some hot coco but they were already closed.  The only bad part was, I was wearing a (cute) hoodie, leggings, and flip flops but the temp was in the low 50s so my toes were FREEZING!!  I felt like I was walking like an idiot because of my completely frozen toes but I guess it was overlooked because we have date #2 tomorrow night :) I'm not sure what we're doing yet but I will be sure to recap!

Well, I guess I should start off by saying I joined eHarmony.  I was a little unsure at first, but I've heard about so many people that have met their boyfriends/fiances on dating sites that I decided to give it a try and I'm glad I did because it's actually pretty fun!

I've learned that moms can be a little pushy about eHarmony also, which I thought was funny because when trying to decided if I should do it or not, here is the motherly advice I received:
Me: I'm not sure if I should do it.  What if I turn out like Sarah from the bible?
Mom: (confused look)
Me: She took things into her own hands instead of waiting for God's plan and he was not happy.
Mom: Well how do you know God doesn't want you to join eHarmony??

Me: It's $120.  Kinda expensive...
Mom: Well if you find someone then that's really a small price to pay and you know you spend way more than that on outfits and clothes you never wear.